Kissing Dojo

A kiss can be gentle, intense, shy, or hungry. It can open doors, create longing, or reveal boundaries. In this Dojo, we will take time to explore kissing in a delicate and detailed way, paying close attention to the physical, emotional, and relational nuances inside this exciting act.

The exploration will be slow, gradual, and methodical. We will give a great deal of importance to digestion (verbal and non-verbal), as it happens, moving back and forth between stimulation and regulation. This creates a space that supports noticing how much of a weight a kiss could actually carry, how intimate it is to come into such contact another, and what is a good and aligned way for me to do it with this person now.

What to expect:

This Dojo is for anyone curious about exploring lip-to-lip contact in a systematic and attentive way. The emphasis is on cultivating the ability to listen — to each other and to oneself. Making space for all sensations, emotions and parts of ourselves that may arise.

We begin with a solo somatic warm up (Feldenkrais inspired), to get into dialogue with the body. Spending some time with sensations and impulses, without the relational element. From there we move into partner work, gently introducing contact and consent. Participants are encouraged to say no, or check and then say no (or yes), and to follow their own pace throughout.

Roughly half of the workshop is devoted to preparation before lip-to-lip contact, using forms of touch and interaction that most people find comfortable with anyone.

Each edition of this workshop zooms in on a different theme. Returning participants are warmly invited — there will always be new material to explore, as well as new people to meet and engage with.

Come wearing comfortable clothes for movement.

Couples are welcome to join, with the understanding that partner changes are an essential part of this Dojo.

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A note on Gender

An assistant will help with pairing, but we cannot guarantee partners of a specific gender. You can always step aside from any exercise and rejoin in the next round.

The last thing I want is for anyone to kiss someone they don’t want to. At the same time, this workshop may offer a chance to explore kissing in a different context than usual — which might sometimes include kissing someone of a gender you wouldn’t normally kiss. This does not define or change your sexuality; it could simply be a frame for exploring yourself and gender dynamics.

In any case, this is not required. I believe such experiments are only valuable if you feel genuine curiosity, not if you are doing it just because I suggested it.